Hello Friends,
I've been absent for a few weeks. I hope all are well.
My wife of 17 years, the love of my life and mother of my children has commited adultry. I am devestated and can barley function right now. This is worse than death.
She has no desire to change. She has turned her back totaly against everything and everyone. She has said that she has given up on living by Gods word because it dosnt bring happiness, so she is going to find it any way she can. Eat and drink for tomarrow we shall die.
I love her so much and dont know how to go on without her. I've tryed so hard to save her. I weep for my children. I weep for her. I weep for myself. Please pray for us. I need His strength, please!
I wont be able to post for awhile. I cant hardly muddle thru each hour. I'm so hopeless right now, and this pain is unbearable.
Thankyou friends, God bless
love, jayme
I wish I had words to ease your pain. My heart aches for you. My prayers and thoughts are there for you and your children.
Dear Jayme I am praying for you too.
I have a pretty good idea how you feel.
You are in the early stages, allow yourself when reality sinks in to mourn and weep. Ignore those who think you get over these things in 6 months, you don't and they are morons. Take your time and don't put expectations on yourself.
I have seen women play dirty tricks on their partners, only to become someone elses toy.
Then they realise what they had was a secure loving relationship.
Take each day as it comes and keep a journal if you have the concentration. I wish I did. It would have confirmed for one thing I wasn't going totally mad.
Love vicky
Here is something that helped me keep going when hubby and I had a mountain to climb (even though it was a different situation, this can still apply for you):
When Your Hut Is Burning
The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited
island. He prayed feverishly for GOD to rescue him,and every day he scanned
the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming.
Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to
protect himself from the elements, and to store his few possessions.
One day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut
in flames, with smoke rolling up to the sky. The worst had happened, and
everything was lost.
He was stunned with disbelief, grief, and anger. "GOD, how could you do this
to me?" he cried.
Early the next day he was awakened by the sound of a ship that was
approaching the island. It had come to rescue him. "How did you know I was
here? "Asked the weary man of his rescuers. "We saw your smoke signal,"
they replied.
It's easy to get discouraged when things are going bad, but we shouldn't
lose heart, because GOD is at work in our lives, even in the midst of pain,
and suffering.
Remember that, the next time your little hut seems to be burning to the
ground. It just may be a smoke signal that summons the grace of GOD.
You may want to consider passing this on, because you never know who feels
like their hut is on fire today.
We'll be praying for you.
jayme, i am just heartsick at this news. yes, it is devastating. i grieve with you. and, of course, my prayers will be for you and all the others involved to receive yhwh's blessing through jesus christ in their due time and in their divine way.
i can only imagine that the children must be almost as devastated as you are. in their own little minds, they will manufacture scenarios that make it their "fault" mommy isn't there right now. maybe consoling them and reassuring them with honest and frank explanations (without overly indicting their mother to their minds, of course), -- putting as positive a spin on things as you can possibly manage, -- could benefit you as well, serving as meaningful therapy to say things out loud and take the focus off your own pain, no matter how briefly that might be. and, perhaps, stressing to the children that, as bad as things seem at the moment, this is a temporary situation (aren't all situations right now temporary?) and things can get better in so many ways.
we are all here for you brother, in prayer and in spirit. 
christian love, ... iso...
I'm so sorry! I don't think I can add anything more to what has already been posted. Rest assured that you'll be in our thoughts and payers.
Hello brother:
I'm so sorry this has happened to you, but we know how our enemy attacks us, mainly through those closest to us. Some of us do notice when others come up missing and pray for them just out of habit. You were missed and now we know why. This is so sad for you and your children, and your wife. This could be part of her illness and she needs meds? Or it could be she no longer wants to be a wife and mother? Time does heal all wounds (been there, too) so please allow yourselves time to sort things out.
We know you love her, but can you forgive her? It can be done, if thats what you want, but regardless of what you decide you have my prayers also for Jah, Jesus, the Holy Spirit and angels to bring your whole family through this latest satanic attack.
Much Christian Love and Prayers and Endurance for you, your 8 children, your wife and ALL
sis
Jesus said on the grounds of fornication, you are free of the marriage, and can find love again and remarry.
This is also an option..
Dear Jamye,
I'm very sad about your situation. I'm sure the pain and grief are unbearable. Are you in a state of shock or full out dysfunctional? Are you at least able to get bills paid or do you need some social service direction?
Your going to need to eat as healthy as possible. I usually have yogurts and healthy cereal like a trail mix or Life maple flavor. I take B vitamins, drink less caffeine because it makes me more anxious in a crisis. If you insure that resting 8 hours is a necessary function with your family, you'll persevere better. Make sure your kids get the same. Tell them that it important for you all to be strong and healthy
Satan went after me after I had a holy spirit experience. Just remember that you CAN do this! God wants you to make it out and will provide your needs. LOTS of prayers and faith are needed. You WILL get relief, but until then, you can cry on any of our cyber shoulders
My prayers to you and yours , Debbie
PS. Some may resent this but anti depressants do help us function when we are grief stricken. I've been taking one these past months because my husband didn't even try to make our relationship work. It hurt to have my fears validated, he didn't really love me. That's OK because someone else will. So the bad husband can go live his immoral life. I'll take a try at happiness again.
Be fearful of manipulation. She may be very mentally ill to have made such radical decisions. Don't you have a bunch of kids? She may just be tired and lost who she is. Mommy's can lose their individual identity and feel like slaves in a life that is supposed to be joyful and not overwhelming.
PSS. I hope my unsolicited advice is not hurtful.
I don't know what to say, Jayme - such a sad turn of events.
Just know that I too will keep you all in my prayers for strength of spirit for whatever comes, dear brother.
Willa
Thankyou all!!
Most of the children are with family right now. They drove 500 miles the night I got the news! Most of my blood family has passed away, but my wife has a BIG family. The 3 babies are with their great aunt and my oldest daughter is there too and at her cousins house. The 2 boys 7,9 are with the same cousin. My oldest son and my #2 daughter are with me.
I'm getting to work, but I keep forgeting everything. My mind is such a jumbled mess. 2 of my wifes uncles, who are like brothers to me, came up 500 miles again to stay with me a few days.
My wife ended up in Florida were she was going to stay the winter in a homeless shelter. I tried to get her a place to stay with family but since she has disassociated herself most are reluctant. I cried out to Jehovah that he help her and right after I recieved a phone call from my brother in law who lives in Georgia and he said she could stay with them if she was serious about putting herself back togather. So she is there, with her sister.
She tells me she dose not love me anymore and she will not admit that she needs some professional help. But she wants her kids back. I dont know what will happen but things are better. By Jehovahs power and mercy I want to put my family back togather. He will have to do it, if it is his will, I am just a man. I will trust in him and work towards that end as long as He's pointing me that way. I know Jehovah is hating a divorceing and I vowed before Him for better or worse. Please pray for His Spirit upon us, for his strength, His comfort, and His will.
May the Lord keep sustaining each and everyone, Jayme
Hello Jayme,
Reading through your plight brought back my own pain. The pain has faded over time, but reading here recalls it to life again.
When a person goes through an experience like this, one does not come out the other side, the same. The betrayal of the one we loved and trusted most shatters us at our core.
Even if we find love again, parts of ourselves are not in place to give in the same way...like trust, vital to any relationship. Even if we forgive, a scar has formed deep inside and will remain until we die.
It was not supposed to be this way with our beloved. The human heart is treacherous and often doesn't learn.
This is only the beginning of a long journey for you until you reach a 'turning point'. Prayers to our father above for strength to sustain you.
Tessa
Brother Jayme ... hearts and minds are indeed fragile things.
While I have no magic words or super powers that would dispel the hurt and soothe the battered psyche,
I shall however offer you brotherly encouragement along with my own empathy and understanding ... and most of all prayer for you as well as your family.
Just as there is power in the 'Blood of the Lamb', so too there is power in the 'Word' ....
Poor yourself into the scriptures as much as you can Jayme ... just read
Even when you dont feel like it...read
When it seems you cant see the print for the agony and tears ... read.
I have found that prayer and scripture make an excelent balm for the soul my brother... and dont forget to thank Jah for Jesus .
Hello Jayme,
How are you and your children holding up ?
What about your wife ... how is her condition ?
I sincerely hope there have been some improvements and solace for all of your family .
... peace Brother
Hello Jayme,
How are you and your children holding up ?
What about your wife ... how is her condition ?
I sincerely hope there have been some improvements and solace for all of your family .
... peace Brother
Hello dear brother,
Thank you for your loving concern! I want you to know that your words of encouragement and advise that you offered previous have really helped. I think of them often and read in The Word as you suggested. It has really been a support for me. Thankyou!
The loving friends here on PC and the interesting discussions have also helped alot. I must admit that I am fighting depression more and more and winter is not helping. I have an appointment with my doctor next week. I've got to keep it together for my kids. My wife is going to stay in Georgia and she is not at all interested in repairing our family, so I guess I must carry on without her.
As isomam said though, I must keep in mind that all situations right now are only temporary. Thanks iso!
We have a wonderful future ahead and the One who promises this is "faithful and true"!
Thanks for helping me to cling to the peace that only God can provide.
your brother, Jayme