Your brother-in-law is a sick person. He has a mental illness, and the denial will not help him. I know about this because my ex husband has the same illness.
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Your brother-in-law needs treatment. He will get worse and eventually not be able to sustain a relationship.
Do not put yourself in a difficult situation if you in the long run cannot help this couple.
Salaam vicky
PS needed.
both children grown, in relationships, monogamous, happy, and doing well. They speak to their father regularly, with the full understanding of his problems.
Vicky, thank you for sharing your experience. You are right, my brother in law is my husband's youngest brother, his wife is my sister by marriage (although she barely talks to me, doesn't acknowlege hubby and I as family-no invite to the wedding, just the bridal shower coz my husband is df).
She is young, from a poor and sheltered background. She truely believes that he is her way out of a hard life into a new one. Young and naive she doesnt want to believe what is right infront of her eyes.
I want help, for them both. He is sick, but his entire life, his JW friends and family covered for him (he was always happy to tow the line). I think they enabled him and that is why he is the way he is.
Husband and I can't help them at all. What is worse anything we do, even advice will backfire against us. It just feels wrong not to help, not to warn.
Salaam and Jah's love & mercy, :giverose::heartbeat:
Lou