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someone from this forum just e-miled me this.:shocked:

hitomi

Email quote removed as it is a private email and should not be posted on a public forum ... if anyone gets a abusive or nasty email please attempt to resolve one on one then if this fails forward the email in question to the PC Site Admin Team. Warmly PC Site Admin Team

Sister joyful ...

Did you mean 'email' or 'pm' ...?

Either way ... if someone writes you anything you find offensive you can pm the admin team with the 'who' and 'what' so that they will be able to look into it for you if you like ... for we would not want any to be upset or hurt by what they would consider something 'nasty' ... :(

When feelings begin 'running high' ... things sometimes tend to get 'said' or (typed in this case) that we wish we wouldn't have ...:(

Hopefully though ... self control and long-suffering will win the day ... and apologies will be forthcoming ... :thumbsup:

Hope this is helpful to you ... BR :sheepy: :bouncyhearts:

why do I have to apologize for someone's nasty e-mail?

Dear joyful ...

Once again it appears that we have a misunderstanding ...:(

I was NOT suggesting that YOU apologize ... but that whomever sent you that email would do so ...

I am sitting here shaking my head at how often it seems that you are misreading what I write ... :scratchhead:

Perhaps it is my writing style that you are finding so difficult to understand?

Hopefully this 'bluntness' by me will not be misunderstood by you ...

I wasn't saying that YOU should apologize ... but rather that the one who sent the email to you could pm or email you back and apologize to you if that is at all possible ...

We seek to try to get along together in LOVE, HARMONY AND PEACE as much as it depends upon US as individuals ...

That is a 'hint' for the 'emailER' (whoever sent the email) ... not the 'emailEE' (you joyful) ...

Clear as mud ...?!;):shocked:

Luv and hopefully understanding ... BR :sheepy: :bouncyhearts:

I am just informing you what is generated from disagreenment in this forum.:shocked: Or you think I should have keep this kind secret?

Dear sis joyful ...

May I humbly suggest a nice hot cup of tea ... :drinking:!!

Seriously ...

I am trying to understand your 'tone' ... it seems as if you are a wee bit 'antagonistic' ... something that I am sure you would not want to come across as ... :giverose:

My sister ...

Again I ask you ...

WHY would you think by what I wrote that I am suggesting you keep your 'email/pm' ... 'a secret' ...??!!:shocked::shocked:

My SUGGESTION to PM the admin team is something that I thought would be HELPFUL that is all ... :dontknow:

As to the 'disagreement' ... not sure which 'disagreement' you are referring to as you haven't really answered any of my questions so as to 'clarify' whatever 'disagreements' you are 'disagreeing' with ...:dontknow:

Again, my sister ... I hope that your feelings will soon be soothed ... although right now I am at a loss as to how to do so ...

Christian love to you ... BR :sheepy: :bouncyhearts:

Why do I have to keep this to myself? It is my decision to inform to this forum because of the content of it. It is obviously false accustion. It is malicious. It is a continuation from the discussion we had on the board. This is what I mean by superficial. Where is the sense of justice?

Hi Joyfull,

I have been trying to follow the happenings between this thread and many others,

May I offer a suggestion,

Here is what was given as counsil, from an apostle
Matthew 18:15
[ A Brother Who Sins Against You ] "If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.

Now the admin, may not have done the exact perfect thing in this case but no doubt this is the scripture they were thinking of.

I personaly have no problem if you want me to know all of your business and the rest of the readers.

as for justice? where do you think you are going to get justice on a forum such as this? Is it even possible? are you looking for people to rebuke the person? It would be wrong according to the scriptures for any of us to do so without the above scripture's advice being followed.

The bible says to expose the evil deeds. It was my decision to expose it. it is no one else's. I am sure someone can learn from knowing what is going on around the argument. It has been always helping me to know what is going in around me to discern.

Justice is giving me respect of my decision.

Well, the abreviation 'pm' stands for private message, not public message. The decision to publicly post a private message is not ours, as per the following instructions found under the board's 'Cafe Guidelines':

PM's - Private Messages

PM's ... Private Messages are to be kept private and not posted on the board publicly unless both parties agree to this. If anyone post PM's without prior consent then the PM will be removed and the posters PM abilites will be turn off. This is a common rule for Discussion boards around the world and we all have the need to our privacy.

However ... if you receive a vulgar, obscene, racist or otherwise socially unacceptable private message please forward it to the PC Site Admin Team for review.

Warmly,

PC Site Admin Team

Update: This also applies to emails being posted as well.

As Frank brought out, the Bible, quoting Jesus at Matthew 18:15, also says to do this first: "If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over."
Then if that doesn't satisfy one's need for justice in a matter, the offending pm should be forwarded to the Admin team as directed above.
These rules are in place for the good of everyone involved on the forum. It's not personal towards you, Hitomi - no 'secrets'. Hope it helps...

:peace:Willa

Hi Joyful: I have been paying attention to you lately and it seems to me that you are somehow disturbed, because it is clear to me that you either twist or misunderstand many of the things that are being said on this forum.

You did that on the transsexuality thread and now you are doing it here. Jesus clearly said that this kind of matters should be settled privately between the two parties, -or at least that is what we should try to do-. Did you try to settle this privately with the person who offended at least twice?

If you didn’t then you are not following the rules, and yet, you come here, telling us that we are deviating from the truth. Maybe you should take a break. Lately you have not been honoring your name. Instead of being Joyful you are being confrontational.

If you don’t do something about it instead of calling you Joyful we’re going to end up calling you Moody.


P:S: Do not expect to find justice in this world. This world is unjust and unfair and there is not that much that we can do about that. Deal with it and move on.

there is an inherent unfairness to letting random e-mails or pm's be placed on the board. I have one time asked permission to quote from a pm I got because it was such a pretty passage of the Bible sent to me--and I received permission--so there are always circumstances But to look at someone's pm sent in response to someone Else you are only hearing a small portion of a conversation you aren't privvy to--one-sided conversations are confusing at best. I Love the pm system. Willa is my pm buddy :hug: but not too many would find me telling her about my puppy every day too stimulating--and willa gives me a look at her world that I Love--But to use pm's against each other is just wrong--unfair--unChristian...and should someone get one they need help with there are provisions provided for that....Our Administration team does a wonderful job. they do a Big job and they are very generous and kind--I have tons and tons of respect for all of them--I do here and I did at the other boards also-- I think it's one of those oh so difficult and time consuming jobs that is easy to take for granted....anyway--my thoughts on pm's--for what it's worth--:grouphug:

While I wouldn't go so far as to treat it as something sinister, there is a very real explanation for certain behaviors that reflect unreality as reality. The old saying, "perception is reality," rings true here. The question is (and I have to constantly ask it of myself): is my perception real? Needless to say, there are those without the ability to see things from any other viewpoint than their own. Whatever tragic circumstances preceded such a mindset is difficult to attest to. Nevertheless, in that mindset disagreement becomes opposition, skepticism becomes suspicion which becomes paranoia...and there is no reasoning outside that person's "reality."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martyr_complex

gus

Because that is christianity....... Just let it go!

OK so you ain't getting it....perhaps the problem is within you. (And from previous posts I think you know that).

PS humble pie is good. Trims you down, I know, my workout on the stuff has done me good.

If you don't like the restaurant .....move on, but we know you are hungry, just stop throwing the crockery.

These are messages sent in confidence. If you cannot keep the confidence of a friend, who will trust you?